260. The Royal Wedding- A Lesson to Learn

The newly married Duke and Duchess of Cambridge on the balcony of Buckingham Palace.
To the left is junior bridesmaid Grace van Cutsem
and at the right is junior bridesmaid Margarita Armstrong-Jones.
Photo: attribution- Wikipedia

From Julius Caesar onwards, if not before, royal marriages have been, more often than not, complete and utter disasters.  Perhaps the disasters in the past were so well hidden that they never saw the light of day but in our times this is not the case… the disasters exist and they are there for all to see.

That is why this Royal Wedding, in spite of those whose whole vocation in life is to be spoil sports and spread the doubt of “How long will it last” or “What a boring wedding!” this wedding has all the ingredients to last a long, very long time.

Just because two young people have known each other for ten years, it is not a guarantee that the relationship will last.  All around us we see couples who have known each other for ever but after marriage, if not within months, in time they separate.  Just because it hasn’t been an arranged wedding as a number of royal matches have so been made, it doesn’t mean it will last forever.   In effect even though arranged royal marriages are seldom successful, those in India, among normal people are most resistant- so that doesn’t prove anything.

No, the reason I am convinced that this marriage will last is because of the genuine signs of affection that the couple show each other, where you know it isn’t acting; the understanding of the other’s needs, the mutual respect they show one another tells me that all this does not come from a splash of passion, a love on the rebound or whatever other fickle reason you wish to add for getting married.  All this comes from an agreement the two have made that this relationship blessed or not with passion and fulfilled desire is not based on the senses alone but on a reason for being together, to form a “society”, a partnership.

A number of people who get married, and this is proven by the dismal rate of divorce, do so because they are besotted , in love with one another, they want to change their lives, they see a dream to follow and so on and so on… all the wrong reasons for getting married, of course.

If two people want to get married, they should first and foremost consider that they are entering into a partnership with another person where there are duties more than rights to be expected… it is not a day to be lived under a frothy cloud of tulle that will lead you to an enchanted garden of dreams…  that’s for writers of romance, like me.